Working on it

I bought my husband cheeseburgers and we talked about our vacation.

Somehow even though it all stayed the same I feel better about it.

He was mad at me about changing the plans and I really should have known better. Also in retreading the last post guess I really did write out some of what I did too. Like the fact that I never talked about if we would go to my grandmothers or moms. I kinda told him they wanted us to go and this is where I thought it would fit. My husband doesn't tolerate changes in plans at all. You figure I would know this 8 years later.

We also talked about the trip being cut short and it's not really to punish me it's more because he really needs to get home for work. We work for ourselves so just because we can leave doesn't mean we should. I still think it kinda feels like punishment but I'll get over it.

The bottom line is that everyone is calm now and everyone is getting something they can live with and not feeling left out of the decision.

I also finally got around to putting my food logs into the computer and updating my bodybugg. I have been off plan for 3 days now. Ever since I missed my water goal on day 3 of the #7daychip challenge I kinda lost it. So to get back on track I got everything up to date. Turns out its not so bad. I'm nowhere near the -1000 calories a day I should be at but I was at the worst day -255 calories. Even though I was bad I should still see a lower number on the scale. Even a -0.2 would be good as long as we are going in the right direction.

Christmas Plans and Replanning

As I have talked about before we are leaving for Christmas very soon. We are planning on staying with my In-laws for 13 days with the possibility of also going to see my grandmother who is 4 hours of where we are going.

Today my mother, who I have not talked to for several year (4 or 5) would like the kids to come and see them for a day or two. Now my son is Autistic and will not stay with most people but he loves my parents and we would be staying at a hotel near by that they offered to pay for. That way if anything happens we are pretty close and can take care of it.

This is where the problem starts.

Trying to fit everyone in I proposed that we could leave on on the same day, Go to my parents for the night, Go to his parents for 6 nights, to my grandmothers for 2 nights, and then back to his parents for 4 nights. He freaked out and had a fit. Now were not talking about I told him this is what we are doing, I mean I went and said what do you think about this plan? He freaked.

Finally when he was calmer I asked him to come down and talk about it. He looked at the calendar and told me that instead we would go to his parents for 6 nights, my grandmothers for 2 and then my mothers for the night effectively cutting our trip short by 4 days and 3 nights. As he walked away he made a comment that it didn't matter if we were going to be home early on new years since he wasn't going to get what he wants anyways.

So again I asked him, when he was calmer, exactly what he ment and what he wanted. His response was that he wanted to go to his parents for the whole 13 nights and that's it. And then he said that reguardless it would be so much longer to do it my way rather then his. I looked it up but didn't tell him. His way 1,493 miles - My way 1,543. 50 Miles.

OK? Seriously? And not see any of my family at all?
 
It's now just that he's being a baby and only wanted to see his family, who I should mention we just saw last since they came to visit us. But the fact that why would you want to put me in that position. I love his parents and they are super nice and all, but who wants to be in someone else's house for 13 days. Unless it was going to one of my parents homes, or my grandmothers, I would feel weird anywhere but a hotel. I figured if we saw someone else it would break up the trip and didn't think twice about it when I talked about going to go and see my grandmother. Before now he had not said anything about going to see her at all other then if we were able to afford it we could go. I have talked the whole time about going in the middle of the trip because I wanted to break the trip by

Oh Yea, that's another thing. I must have mentioned breaking the trip up 50 times since I stated that I wanted to go to my grandmother. Today he tells me that I didn't say anything and that he always planned on leaving early and going to see her at the end. Great only 11 days at my In-laws.

I'm at a stand still with him and it's to the point where I told everyone that we are not going anywhere. It was all still waiting to be finalized anyways. I figure at least if he gets his way 1 person will get be happy because if I get what I want he's just going to be such a baby that he's going to make everyone else miserable too.

Great. Merry Christmas to me. Since me and the husband don't exchange gifts I guess I get nothing at all this year.

Weighing In On Christmas

Well from the topic you can tell that I am going to talk about 2 things. Weighing In and Christmas and maybe a bit of weighing in on Christmas.

First of all I did weigh in just this morning and I am now 275.6 lbs so I am down 4.4 lbs. Not all that bad. It's progress and as long as it keeps on going in that direction I'm happy with it. I can always work on tweeking it later.

As for Christmas. It's sure coming fast this year. It's only 5 days until we leave to go and stay with my In-Laws. My husband told them that we are going to stay until Jan 2nd and I don't think that when he planned that he realized that it ment we would be there for almost 2 weeks. I have talked to my Grandmother in Ft. Lauderdale and she says that we are welcome to come and stay with her for a few days. I am trying to plan on going for the 27th through 29th. If we do that they the rest of the trip is broken up and it will not feel like we are being a burden on anyone in particular.

Now comes the hard part for my diet and exercise plans. I am going to be away from home for almost 14 days. I know I said it above but it's different when you think about it in the terms of eating and moving. I am pretty much at someone else cooking whim for 14 days.

So here is the plan:

Diet
1. Buy a case of Slim fast and use in emergancy if food is way, way out of what I am going to be able to eat. (My husband is Puerto Rican so rice, beans, and fried stuff with EVERY SINGLE MEAL)
2. Buy snacks that I can eat and keep them in our space so they all don't get eaten
3. Buy lots of fruit and veggies and cook them for everyone to go with the meals that my MIL prepares.

Fitness
1. Walk - ALOT - We used to live near by so this is easy as I know all of the walking tracks and neighborhoods near by
2. Zumba - My SIL is an instructor and I have been resisting her for years now. I think it's finally time to get over it and get on with it for my own good.
3. I am talking my Wii and all of my workout games with me. The bedroom that we stay in is big enough to set it up on the tv and have enough room to follow through.


So that is my plan. If you have any tips people let me know in the comments. I'm just trying to get though this for the first time. I have always used the excuse of but it's a VACATION and you don't diet on vacation. Well not this time buddy. This ass is not getting any bigger this time around.

Creepy Landlords

I have had many, many landlords in my life. We have always lived in houses and only once did I rent an apartment and have to deal with a company. It's usually just the landlord and us. Most of the landlords we have had are just fine. They want their rent, they do a yearly walk through, and they are done.

Except the landlords that we have now. They are a couple and they creep me out. They are not creepy looking or have creepy personalities like some people that you don't even want to stand near. Actually as people if you met them out in a restaurant they are perfectly normal people and you wouldn't think twice. That's what we thought until we moved in.

First off they insist on doing a full walk through of the house every 3 months. They also tie this is with not allowing us to change any air filter, water filter, or septic solution by ourselves they maintain that it must be done properly and for that to happen they have to be here.

Now if it was only that I guess I could live with it. We are not hiding anything or super slobby so I guess we could just get on with life. But no, it's also everything else they do.

Now we live down a long, really, really, long road. On our road is subdivisions and houses. If you don't live back here there is absolutely no reason whatsoever that you would ever come back her for anything. No business, no park, no landmark, no pretty view, just lots and lots of private property.

The wife drives by our house everyday.

Yes she does really, every single day. I have several times caught her and waved at her and she pretends she is not looking at the house. She maintains that she doesn't ever drive by the house unless we know she is coming. The kids say they see her at least 4x a week. While they don't come in they have made it known that the husband drives by every week to check on the work that the lawn guy we hired is doing.

Oh yes, I forgot about this. Here is a good example. I was having a birthday party for one of my kids and we had a house full of guests. On one of the trips that the wife doesn't make by our house, she noticed that a bush was dying. She went home got her gardening things came back and pulled out the bush during the party.

Another time we went on vacation, we thought that they might be coming in the house to check it out while we were gone. I paid the alarm company to change the number. When we got back the alarm was still on but for some reason I couldn't turn it off. Finally when the police and tech showed up to fix it, I was told that it had been set off several days sooner and they house owner had they come out and turn it off and reset the alarm back to the original code. We are now looking for a new place to live, since I am not going to live in a house where the landlords do illegal things.

And while I am on this topic let me tell you that I just got a call this morning that they are coming over to clean the outside window ledges. I guess the are too dirty and she wants them clean for the winter.